Theories about bad luck
It is common that we wonder why someone we know always seem to have good luck while we consider ourselves to have bad luck.
If you have this problem and think about it often you will probably experience a feeling of helplessness. Since our psyche does not to feel helpless you will probably feel more and more sad and frustrated about it and here you have a vicious circle.
The good news is that you can take control over your “bad luck” since research has shown that we can influende our life to be either more “lucky or unlucky”.
In his book “the luck factor” (It is a great book), Richard Wiseman writes that his research has identified four that are unconsciously used by people who consider themselves to be lucky.
Here is the first factor:
1. “Lucky” people create opportunities in life, they notice when they appear and they use them.
In other words, your behavior is very important! So make sure you expose yourself to behaviors where you meet people. It´s also good to find behaviors that you know when you look historically has been good for you in the long run. If you don´t know what you like try different things that you think may interest you and evalutae the feeling afterwards. This will give you a good circle. You do things that are good for you- you feel better- you get more ideas about good things-you feel better etc. In other words, you automatically get better at noticing new opportunities which is another thing that “lucky” people are good at. Seeing that your strategies work will probably make you want to use your strategies even more (which lucky people do unconsciously).
Another thing you should think about is that “lucky” people are more flexible. When you try to control things too much I think that you give your psyche signals that it is something very important that is happening which makes you more alert, gives you more anxiety and distracts you from seeing opportunities. If you try to see more than one alternative to things you won´t react so much emotionally which will give you enewrgy and concentration on seeing things that can be good for you in the long run.
Richard Wiseman suggests some things you can do to get more lucky:
– In the next month, try to start talking to four people that you know little or not at all. Ask for directions, ask about their opinion when you choose and ice cream etc.