Social anxiety and self-esteem “other people will think that I am weird, boring, nervous etc.”
If you have social anxiety you are probably very anxious about being liked by other people. Often you are so anxious about being liked that you run over your own needs in order to prevent anyone of thinking something negative about you.
As I have written before, when we feel negative feelings about something, we tend to behave in a way that make us feel even worse in the long run.
For example, if you have assumptions about yourself that you are boring there is a big possibility that you behave in a way that can lead towards being boring.
Common assumptions if you have social anxiety are that:
– you worry what other people will think about you.
– you are self-conscious which means that you observe your own behavior all the time and you think about how you are perceived by other people.
– You have problems focusing on what other people say (because your self consciousness distracts you).
– You worry constantly that things will go wrong.
– When you have been in a social situation it is common that you ruminate on what you have said and how you said it and that other people will think that you are weird, boring, stupid etc. You also critisize yourself.
– You often feel that you have nothing to say, a fact that you critisize yourself for.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell