More facts about narcissism
As I said before most people don´t meet the critera for narcissism, instead they have traits of narcissism which is hard enough if you live with one or if you have a parent who is narcissistic.
I will anyway write down facts about narcissistic persoanlity disorder and probably be you will recognize traits in people you know. I think it´s good to have konwledge about narcissism in order to see that things are not always your fault like the narcissist wants you to believe. Rememeber that people with this traits are experts in making you believe that you are a nobody. They feel entitled in telling you everything that is wrong with you and everything you should change about yourself. It is common that narcissists are together with partners that are good at finding faults in themselves. So then there are two of you finding faults in you and often you don´t react to this since you are concinced from the beginning that nothing you do is good enough
Narcissistic personality disorder
People with this personality disorder have pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or through their behavior), a pattern of wanting to be admired and a pattern of lack of empathy. The disorder can be seen in different situations and contexts from early adulthood and consists of at least five of the following traits:
1. He/she has a grandios feeling of being an important person (for example exagerates talents, and success, expects to be treated better than others without having earned the respect thorough behaviors.
2. He/she is occupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty perfect love.
3. He/she thinks he/she is a special and unique person who only can be understood by other people or institutions who are special or who have high status.
4. He/she demands admiration.
5. He/she has a feeling of being entitled to special treatment by other people or that others should automatically meet his/her needs.
6. He/she uses other people, that is takes advantage of others in order to reach his/her goals.
7. He/she has a lack of empathy and isn´t attentive to others´s feelings and needs.
8. He/she is often jealous of other people and thinks he/she is the target of other´s envy.
9. He/she has arrogant behaviors and attitudes.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se