Strategies to handle the narcissist (4)

Strategies to handle the narcissist

9. It is common to feel shame when you speak with a narcissist since that is a feeling the narcissist himself/herself feels a lot and in other words it is often the feeling that is thrown at someone else. If you feel shame, try not to act on the feeling, instead observe it and think that the narcissist is trying to throw the feeling at you.
10. Try to give yourself credit that you have managed not to act on the feelings you have got from the narcissist. Try to give yourself credit even if you failed not to act on the feelings, but you managed to observe them. Remember that this is a hard task and the main thing is that you exercize as soon as you get the chance, just as you do with your bodu when you go to the gym.

Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se

Strategies to handle the narcissist

9. It is common to feel shame when you speak with a narcissist since that is a feeling the narcissist himself/herself feels a lot and in other words it is often the feeling that is thrown at someone else. If you feel shame, try not to act on the feeling, instead observe it and think that the narcissist is trying to throw the feeling at you.
10. Try to give yourself credit that you have managed not to act on the feelings you have got from the narcissist. Try to give yourself credit even if you failed not to act on the feelings, but you managed to observe them. Remember that this is a hard task and the main thing is that you exercize as soon as you get the chance, just as you do with your bodu when you go to the gym.

Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se

Strategies to handle the narcissist (1)

Strategies to handle the narcissist

I have talked about how hard it can be to have someone close who you feel drains your energy. It can be a partner, a friend, a parent etc. (read more in my articles about narcissism).
So how can you handle a person who makes you hurt, angry, tired and sometimes (in mini doses) happy and hopeful that it will get better?
Here are some tips:
1. First of all, learn as much about narcissism as you can. The more you land in an understanding the bigger the more you will be able to handle feelings of guilt, anger, anxiety that you get in your role as the narcissist´s garbage can. First you will notice that you understand everything on an intellectual level but that you still “feel” guilt, shame etc. This is the first step.
2. Now try to have a conversation with the narcissist where you know that there will be issues that usually trigger you emotionally. The best position is if you can have control over when you want to start a topic where you usually feel bad.

To be continued…
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se

Strategies to handle the narcissist

I have talked about how hard it can be to have someone close who you feel drains your energy. It can be a partner, a friend, a parent etc. (read more in my articles about narcissism).
So how can you handle a person who makes you hurt, angry, tired and sometimes (in mini doses) happy and hopeful that it will get better?
Here are some tips:
1. First of all, learn as much about narcissism as you can. The more you land in an understanding the bigger the more you will be able to handle feelings of guilt, anger, anxiety that you get in your role as the narcissist´s garbage can. First you will notice that you understand everything on an intellectual level but that you still “feel” guilt, shame etc. This is the first step.
2. Now try to have a conversation with the narcissist where you know that there will be issues that usually trigger you emotionally. The best position is if you can have control over when you want to start a topic where you usually feel bad.

To be continued…
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se