How can i free myself from feeling stuck in a destructive relationship?
7. Now try to focus on adding activities in your daily life that you know you used to like before and may be you still like them.
8. Observe situations when you critisize yourself and make sure you do something nice for yourself as a strategy to make the critic in you loose its grip.
9. Observe all the shoulds you have in your daily life. Low self-esteem is often connected with lots of shoulds. Try to analyze what you really should do and what you can let go of.
10. In general, work on being nicer to yourself, think about how you would act towards someone you love, act in the same way towards yourself.
11. Evaluate after a month if you still feel as you would never be able to leave your relationship and be on your own. Try to al least think that even though it is hard, it is possible to be on your own.
12. Try to start stopping your partner from saying demeaning things or from trying to make you do things that are unfair. Tell him/her that you won´t tolerate it anymore.
13. Tell him/her (but not too often) that if he/she can´t stop with the demeaning behavior you will have to discuss your relationship seriously. Before you say this be sure you have thought through the possibility of being on your own and that you can handle that even though it would be hard.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se
How can i free myself from feeling stuck in a destructive relationship?
7. Now try to focus on adding activities in your daily life that you know you used to like before and may be you still like them.
8. Observe situations when you critisize yourself and make sure you do something nice for yourself as a strategy to make the critic in you loose its grip.
9. Observe all the shoulds you have in your daily life. Low self-esteem is often connected with lots of shoulds. Try to analyze what you really should do and what you can let go of.
10. In general, work on being nicer to yourself, think about how you would act towards someone you love, act in the same way towards yourself.
11. Evaluate after a month if you still feel as you would never be able to leave your relationship and be on your own. Try to al least think that even though it is hard, it is possible to be on your own.
12. Try to start stopping your partner from saying demeaning things or from trying to make you do things that are unfair. Tell him/her that you won´t tolerate it anymore.
13. Tell him/her (but not too often) that if he/she can´t stop with the demeaning behavior you will have to discuss your relationship seriously. Before you say this be sure you have thought through the possibility of being on your own and that you can handle that even though it would be hard.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se