Why is it important to be aware of what you feel in your work to improve your self-esteem?
I will continue to give you tips about how you can train on handling your feelings in your work with your self-esteem:
– Don´t try to push away your feelings, when you put energy on that, you mostly get more of the same negative feelings.
– Try to betolerant towards the feeling and instead of pushing it away, try to analyze what it is trying to tell you. Remember what i said in an earlier article, we have got feelings partly in order to get a grip of how to behave and communicate, so the feelings are trying to tell you something.
– By analyzing the feeling you will sometimes may be conclude that it is false alarm. That means that may be there is no danger in front of you, but you got a negative feeling because it may be reminded you of things in your past where you felt helpless and out of control.
– Try to analyze if there is something you can do that is good for you or if you just have to accept the feeling and wait until it passes.
– Try to do behaviors that you know are good for you in the long run in order to give signals to your psyche that you want the best for your needs.
– Try sometimes to act opposite of what the feeling wants (this is really hard but try it sometimes). An example is if you have a conflict with your partner and you are angry, try to do something nice, ask if he/she wants a cup of tea when you make one for yourself.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se