The development of low self-esteem
Having a schema like for example I am not likable makes you develop life rules that go along with those thoughts. Examples of rules can be:
– If I always adjust to other people´s needs, they will like me.
– If I never ask people for anything they will find me easy to be with and they will like me.
– If i always have a happy face people will become in a good mood when they are with me and they will like me.
– If I never tell personal things people won´t be able to form a negative opinion of me.
– If I never hang out myself emotionally peope won´t be able to fool me or betray me.
– If I never hang out myself emotionally I won´t be sad if people don´like me and leave me.
– If I never show my feeling to other people, they won´t perceive me as strong and stable.
Your life rules will further lead to behaviors that are sometimes called compensatory behaviors. These behaviors often give you some sort of relief in the short run but they tie the knot and the vicious circle even mor ein the long run.
To be continued…
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se
The development of low self-esteem
Having a schema like for example I am not likable makes you develop life rules that go along with those thoughts. Examples of rules can be:
– If I always adjust to other people´s needs, they will like me.
– If I never ask people for anything they will find me easy to be with and they will like me.
– If i always have a happy face people will become in a good mood when they are with me and they will like me.
– If I never tell personal things people won´t be able to form a negative opinion of me.
– If I never hang out myself emotionally peope won´t be able to fool me or betray me.
– If I never hang out myself emotionally I won´t be sad if people don´like me and leave me.
– If I never show my feeling to other people, they won´t perceive me as strong and stable.
Your life rules will further lead to behaviors that are sometimes called compensatory behaviors. These behaviors often give you some sort of relief in the short run but they tie the knot and the vicious circle even mor ein the long run.
To be continued…
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se