Why do I still have low self-esteem although I am trying to improve it?
As I mentioned in my last article iit´s important to find out what is maintaining your low self-esteem. It is definitely things in your daily life that you do that is maintaining your low self-esteem. So here are the steps you need to start with to improve your self-esteem:
1. Take you calendar and register what in your daily life makes you feel bad. If it´s hard to get a grip of what it is take one activity at a time and register your feelings afterwards.
2. When you have found out what or who makes you feel bad, try to analyze what you do, often you do as someone else wants or youdo favors for someone else in order to be liked. This is not harmful if you get energy back from that person or activity in the long run but if there is no balance, the result is that your own feelings get run over and the consequence is negative feelings and low self-esteem.
Remember what I have said earlier; if you treat your psyche in a bad way, your psyche will give you negative feelings back.
3. If you have never asked yourself what opinions you have about different things you might not know what you like. If you recognize yourself in this, take some time and write down what you like about different things for example, food, sports, movies, music, personalities, books, clothes, travel destinations etc.
4. If you notice that you let your needs get run over by your partner because you are afraid of abandonment, read more in my articles about relationships.
5. If you realize that you can´t help being mean to yourself since you overeat, abuse alcohol or drugs or other addictions, you need to address both the harmful behavior and your self-esteem. Remember again; when your psyche feels pushed against a corner since you behave in a mean way towards it, it invents destructive behaviors in order to escape from the awful feelings the ”running over” behavior leads to.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se
Why do I still have low self-esteem although I am trying to improve it?
As I mentioned in my last article iit´s important to find out what is maintaining your low self-esteem. It is definitely things in your daily life that you do that is maintaining your low self-esteem. So here are the steps you need to start with to improve your self-esteem:
1. Take you calendar and register what in your daily life makes you feel bad. If it´s hard to get a grip of what it is take one activity at a time and register your feelings afterwards.
2. When you have found out what or who makes you feel bad, try to analyze what you do, often you do as someone else wants or youdo favors for someone else in order to be liked. This is not harmful if you get energy back from that person or activity in the long run but if there is no balance, the result is that your own feelings get run over and the consequence is negative feelings and low self-esteem.
Remember what I have said earlier; if you treat your psyche in a bad way, your psyche will give you negative feelings back.
3. If you have never asked yourself what opinions you have about different things you might not know what you like. If you recognize yourself in this, take some time and write down what you like about different things for example, food, sports, movies, music, personalities, books, clothes, travel destinations etc.
4. If you notice that you let your needs get run over by your partner because you are afraid of abandonment, read more in my articles about relationships.
5. If you realize that you can´t help being mean to yourself since you overeat, abuse alcohol or drugs or other addictions, you need to address both the harmful behavior and your self-esteem. Remember again; when your psyche feels pushed against a corner since you behave in a mean way towards it, it invents destructive behaviors in order to escape from the awful feelings the ”running over” behavior leads to.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se