I will reapeat the essence of what makes people narcissists. So it´s a combination of genes and a childhood where the child usually is spoilt in some area for example financially. Instead the child never or seldom hears that he/she is good and worthy of love just the way he/she is. Often the mother is cold many times she can get attention herself from her child. For example she tells her child she is pushing him/her to do well in school because of the child´s good when in fact it is because she wants to shine herself. She gets the chance to brag that her child does well in school and often she can make it sound as though she is the main reason why her child has become a lawyer for example. I want to point out again that not everyone with a narcissistic mother will become a narcissist. Some people will become people pleasers instead and continue to please people in their adult life.
Many of my patients with difficulties to say no to others or who please others in order to feel good about themselves have had parents with narcissistic features.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se
I will reapeat the essence of what makes people narcissists. So it´s a combination of genes and a childhood where the child usually is spoilt in some area for example financially. Instead the child never or seldom hears that he/she is good and worthy of love just the way he/she is. Often the mother is cold many times she can get attention herself from her child. For example she tells her child she is pushing him/her to do well in school because of the child´s good when in fact it is because she wants to shine herself. She gets the chance to brag that her child does well in school and often she can make it sound as though she is the main reason why her child has become a lawyer for example. I want to point out again that not everyone with a narcissistic mother will become a narcissist. Some people will become people pleasers instead and continue to please people in their adult life.
Many of my patients with difficulties to say no to others or who please others in order to feel good about themselves have had parents with narcissistic features.
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se