The development of low self-esteem
Now I want to explain how a schema (your innermost, mostly unconscious thoughts about yourself) is formed.
Examples of what a schema can look like is when you have low self-esteem is:
– I am a bad person.
– I am not lovable and everyone will abandon me.
– I am worthless and others will use me.
– I am a failure.
– I am dependent of others since I am incompetent to take care of myself.
– I am not lovable and I will always be alone and feel lonely.
Low self-esteem is formed in childhood most of the time but you sometimes get low self-esteem as an adult. The importand thing to remember is than no matter when and how you get low self-esteem it is possible to improve. Generally speaking you need to analyze where and how in your daily life your low self-esteem appears and then you need to start making changes little by little. If it feelis overwhelming make the steps smaller and remember that you can´t avoid the negative feelings altogether and that is not the goal. The psyche wants balance so there should be a balance between positive and negative feelings.
To be continued…
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se
The development of low self-esteem
Now I want to explain how a schema (your innermost, mostly unconscious thoughts about yourself) is formed.
Examples of what a schema can look like is when you have low self-esteem is:
– I am a bad person.
– I am not lovable and everyone will abandon me.
– I am worthless and others will use me.
– I am a failure.
– I am dependent of others since I am incompetent to take care of myself.
– I am not lovable and I will always be alone and feel lonely.
Low self-esteem is formed in childhood most of the time but you sometimes get low self-esteem as an adult. The importand thing to remember is than no matter when and how you get low self-esteem it is possible to improve. Generally speaking you need to analyze where and how in your daily life your low self-esteem appears and then you need to start making changes little by little. If it feelis overwhelming make the steps smaller and remember that you can´t avoid the negative feelings altogether and that is not the goal. The psyche wants balance so there should be a balance between positive and negative feelings.
To be continued…
Cognitive Behavior Psychologist Monica Emanell
www.kbtemanell.se